It's complicated.

As the holidays approach, I'm getting anxious not because I get to see Madison celebrate her first Thanksgiving and Christmas, I'm excited for that actually but because I don't know where we will be.
It's complicated because my family lives in Tacoma  (1 hour away) and Jon's family lives in Woodinville (10 minutes away) from us. I feel like I have to decide which family to spend the holidays with and if I don't chose one family then I'll have that guilt on my conscious for a long time. Our parents only have met once and that was due to me becoming pregnant so Jon and I planned a dinner at his parent's house so they could meet finally. It went smoothly for the most part. My dad was slightly embarrassing me with stories from when I was little plus he isn't the most social person. My mom was pretty quiet which is not normal when she's home, she didn't say much honestly. She just becomes very quiet in new situations and it concludes others around her to think she's quiet.
This year though, my mom wants Madison and I to come down for Thanksgiving dinner. Jon of course is cooking dinner for his family and his sister, Heather and grandmother who hasn't met Madison wants us to join them for dinner. I wish our families talked on a more daily basis so it wouldn't be so easy. I know my mom won't want to travel, she's a homebody. My dad will go with the flow, but it is just stressing me out!
My solution is to join the two families in Woodinville that way my sister and grandfather won't have to drive so far south. It will be around 13 of us depending on if Ambre is bringing her boyfriend, Matt to dinner so it will be not as spacious like usual, but it's everyone together and hey we're family. We need to communicate and get to know one another somehow, why not through Thanksgiving dinner?
As for Christmas, I'm still working out the kinks, but I think Madison and I might spend Christmas morning with Jon's family then go down to Tacoma to spend Christmas afternoon/ dinner there. I hope the weather participates with us if that is the plan, I just don't like having to decide what to do.

 Ah, what to do?
Any advice if anyone reads this?